On this beautiful Wed-iquette Wednesday we talk to Jay about originality and where he feels it fits within the traditional wedding. Canada’s Etiquette Guy raises a great point about what is truly unique about your wedding… YOU. Have your own question for him? Have a response to this post? Post below!

As wedding professionals, we are asked to organize all sorts of weddings from straightforward small informal affairs to highly complicated shows with thousands of details to keep track of. On some occasions we are involved in a small way, on others we must pull rabbits out of hats………..again and again. But in almost all weddings, the bride and groom want an element of originality.  When I think back about some of the weddings I’ve attended or advised on, originality can quickly become a slippery slope. I find it helpful to the whole process to remind the couple that their unique union is where the focus will be, and there’s no doubt it’s an original!

I don't think Jay would be a fan of a ceremony like this one - am I right? He does raise a great point about the union between you and your partner being the most unique thing about the ceremony. Someone else can have the same decor, the same songs etc but they aren't YOU!

Being a traditionalist, I advise originality is best limited to elements like the cake, the flowers, even the venue, the food, and the entertainment. I like to keep the ceremony clean, sleek, and perfectly orchestrated.

How do you handle requests from brides that go against your best instincts? What has been your most original wedding moment? – Jay.