Sorry for the little break there! Reflecting on the loss of a few special friends (human and furry) over this last week or so. I thought I would write a post for you with a few ways you could honour those who cannot be with you on your wedding day.
There are lots of ways that you could recognize a loved one at your wedding without it becoming the focus. Subtle ways that can double as a celebration of your union and a memorial like these beautiful butterflies in the photo on the left here. Couples can release doves, butterflies or even balloons on their wedding day that not only makes for a great photo moment but is also a meaningful offering to ‘the heavens’ if you will (everyone’s beliefs are different in terms of what happens to us after death I know). If you want to do something very simple and cost effective, here are a few other ways that have worked:
- Memorial Candles – have a candle with a little name card for the person (the people) you wish to honour. These can be lit during the ceremony with other candles or lit somewhere for everyone to see i.e. during the reception on a fireplace mantle at the wedding venue. Simple and cost effective.
- Special Chair – during the ceremony have a chair ‘reserved’ for the person or people who can’t be with you to celebrate. Have a nice sign on it with their name, or a photo, or a nice photo.
- Locket – find a locket, either a family heirloom or go and find one. Put a small photo of that person inside and have it tied into your bouquet. This is popular with brides for example who have lost their father and still wish to have him ‘walk her down the aisle’.
Anything that is significant to your relationship with that person can be used to recognize them as part of your event. A song, a prop (I’ve seen a couple use their Grandmother’s old car during their wedding photos), a mention in a program, a donation to a charity in their name, a favourite food of theirs or recipe… think about what meant most to your relationship and have fun with it. You don’t want it to be sad! You want to acknowledge and celebrate with them.