A reader has picked this week’s topic. “What responsibilities are carried on the invitation when the wedding will be held in a non-traditional venue or format? For example, if the couple is being married on a golf course, does the invitation read ‘leave your heels at home’? Or what if couples want the dress for celebration to be formal, but are hosting the event at an informal place such as a field, a beach or a barn? If you are inviting guests to a theme party of sorts, is it okay to put this information in a direct way on the invitation or is word of mouth preferred? Should the invitation’s look and feel convey any particular information?” Of course we asked ‘Canada’s Etiquette Guy’ Jay Remer what his thoughts were on the matter and this is what he writes. Have your own question for Jay? Leave a message for us!
The invitation for any non-traditional wedding can be very creative. I think the look and feel can be very personal and fun. This is after all a celebration! Attire would still need to be clearly indicated (lower right corner), “sensible shoes” is always a helpful directive. If there is a theme, that should be straight forward, with participatory dress being optional, i.e. Black Tie (festive dress optional). As long as there is no mention of gifts on the invitation, you have great flexibility. What a great place for originality! – Jay.